So recently I’ve gotten back into online dating full time and the experience has been… everything. Like literally, it has been all the chaos, questionable moments, feel good stories, and some fun wrapped up in one on some reality tv vibes. I originally tried my hand at this back in 2019 and then let it fall by the wayside. Now I’m back because I have a goal in mind: to actually date and see what I like. My dream is to meet my future husband in the grocery store, but seeing as I started using Instacart or visiting the store in the name of “get in and get out”, I don’t see that happening any time soon.
Online dating has picked up over recent years for pandemic reasons I suppose – we as humans crave other humans naturally. Being locked down forced people to get creative in the way they went about these things. Technology rose at a faster rate and online interactions are the new norm. The marketing ramped up for online platforms to bring people safely together and I found myself being a victim of being bored inside (I love being inside but on my own terms, not because of a ravaging virus that disrupted the entire world and morphs every few months) and ended up on a few of these apps. The overall experience actually has helped me figure out my likes/dislikes, so it was worth spinning the block on the idea again. This time around has also encouraged me to really be clear and take my time seriously. I’ve made a list of “Do’s and Don’t’s” if you’re considering the online dating world. Feel free to use these for yourself or simply acknowledge where I’m at with it. They are as follows, but in no particular order of importance – they’re all important:
Do use the prompts and guides to build your dating profile and help people connect with you based off or your views and values. Don’t use the prompts and still be vague while expecting to get somewhere.
Do highlight what YOU are looking for and what you may be looking for in that person. Don’t just regurgitate things you saw on social media or heard on a podcast – people will know.
Do take into account what the person whose profile you’re viewing wants in a person and not just your physical attraction to them. Don’t disregard other people’s likes/interests – it’s a red flag already.
Do put CURRENT pictures of YOURSELF on YOUR dating profile and if it’s a group photo, pls identify yourself to help us all. Don’t just post memes and things.
With that let me say this as well because Catfish is still on tv. Do have phone calls and video chats PRIOR TO meeting up!!! Don’t meet anywhere that’s not a public place!! And pls share your date details and/or location with somebody. People are crazy, play it safe.
Do understand that if y’all aren’t getting along on the app, they all have the option to either unmatch, report, or block individuals. Don’t go meeting up with people you can’t even vibe through text with.
And lastly there’s no “do” here, just don’t waste your time trying to see sugar in shit.
Happy online dating.
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