I’ve been blessed to finally find a circle of friends that I feel I will have around me forever… and that this time it actually means forever. My track record with friends hasn’t been the best but it hasn’t been the worst either. Everybody I was cool with in grade school, although I still have love for most of them, they don’t know my life and I don’t know theirs. I’m okay with that most days until I look at the circle around others and the longevity of their friendships – I get jealous for a minute but then I’m over it. Some people can stay close friends for that long but it wasn’t the case for me. If I was super close to you in grade school and I still talk to you occasionally now, we’re either blood or were so close that I just consider you to be blood. I’ve been one to get people that teach me lessons and some have taught me more than others. Through it all I feel like right now I have the ones I need most with me no matter how sick I get of them or how much I aggravate them.
My circle is strong… they’re extra supportive and vice versa. We come together mainly to be the shoulder to lean on, bounce ideas off of, ride or die for (mind you that’s big for me because I ask questions if it’s a ride or die situation but that’s a story for another day), or to just simply kick it with. I’ll just speak on what they are to me and what they’ve done for me.
1. They hold me accountable without me asking. I better not tell them any kind of plan I have or goal I’m setting and then let them see me put it by the wayside because they definitely will bring it up. I’m such a procrastinator that it’s ridiculous but my real ones know this and try to get me back on track.
2. They hype me up. Whenever I have a small win in life they’re around to celebrate with me, for me, hell they might even tell my good news to everybody. Some things I think are small or that I can’t do and they come around speaking life and popping bottles.
3. They tell me about myself. I’m a lot to deal with around here; from my smart mouth to my dramatic escapades, I occasionally need to be put in check. My friends aren’t yes men and they, to put it bluntly, will not put up with my shit quietly. Real friends say things no matter if you’re going to like it or not – they always speak the truth.
4. They love me and show it. I have recently found that my love language is quality time and when I think about it, my friends are always down for that when we’re near each other. We don’t have to go out to have a good time. There have been multiple occasions where I’ve gotten with a friend to just be bored together. They also are very good at reasons 1-3 which means they care and if they are so willing to show they care, that’s love.
Honestly I couldn’t imagine my life without my circle I have now. I’m so glad the people I thought who were it before didn’t make it because I probably wouldn’t have come across these gems. To my old friends – it’s still love. To my real ones – I love y’all forever. To everybody else – make sure your circle isn’t a noose in disguise.
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